- Having come to
Zagreb only 1 month ago, we didn’t know many people here, and when asking for
people whose stories can inspire others, we heard your name: amazing woman and
amazing mother who knows how to keep balance between the two.
- I don’t know how to bring up children but I know what I
do with mine. One of the first things I did when I got pregnant was reading
books about motherhood and I really didn’t like advice I read there: a child
should sleep here, you should breastfeed like this, everything was like…you
have to organize and reorganize your life for them, but it doesn’t sound right.
And then I read a book and there was a great idea: once
you have kids, it’s a good idea to involve children into your life, not to
disconnect them from your life. I don’t have to stop having my life once I
become a mom, I should bring kids into my life and basically, that’s the only
thing I do all the time. Of course, my life changed and kids bring many new
things in my life, like I see everything new way through the eyes of my kids,
but I don’t feel disconnected.
- Tell us the story of taking your
2-months daughter for kayaking.
Me and my man like sea, and once we decided that we need
a vessel: some ship, a boat or something. This is how we came up with an idea
to buy kayak. And when Inka was born (and she was born in June), the summer
started and it was absolutely perfect. We put her in front of my legs, she had
a perfect cradle there, I put the blanket over her, because of the sun and the
sea and she would sleep there immediately. We traveled that summer a lot.
- What have you learnt from your
kids?
My daughter is like a role model for me. She is totally
free, she has a free spirit and is not spoilt with the world around her. She
doesn’t feel restrictions in the way she thinks or the way she acts.
This summer we went to Kornati for about 10 days in a
house; we were looking for Robinson kind of tourism. It had really beautiful
nature. She was like Mowgli, like this character from the cartoons. You can see
it her body that she is so free, and so open-minded to everything, so
curious. I told my friend that I would
like to be like her because she really enjoys life in the best way possible,
and she really has no restrictions.
For example, when you ask her what she wants to be when
she grows up, she says: ‘Oh, I want to be everything!’ And I think it’s great,
the best thing ever.
- Being so open-minded and
discovering the world every minute, does your daughter still believe in Santa
Claus?
She totally believes in Santa Claus, and she has a very
sophisticated theory. She also believes in Peter Pan. She doesn’t only believe in him, but she is
in love with him and she will get married with him. Once, playing with her
brother she said: ‘I will marry Peter Pan’ and her brother told her: ‘No, you
can not marry him, he doesn’t exist.’ She was very frustrated and she was
fighting with him that this is not true. At last, she said: ‘No, he exists, and
he exists in the fantasy world!’
- What do you do now?
I’m happily unemployed, but of course, if I’m unemployed
officially, it doesn’t mean I don’t work. I teach Portuguese, I translate books
from Portuguese, and I develop and do some outdoor projects, and I’m also
writing texts for a new website Nature park Medvednica that we have round here
in Zagreb. It’s very difficult for me to
have a normal job because I like some many things and I like so many people.
And then I would have to restrict myself to only one thing and I don’t see me
like this. I try to be everything)
- What inspires you?
Apart from my kids, people inspire me a lot. People and
life stories, especially the ones who don’t follow dogmatic laws and social
rules. Now I’m questioning this dogmatic morality very much, and when raising
children it’d be very easy to give them ready formulas: you have to behave like
this, your goals should be…but it doesn’t feel right somehow. And people who
inspire me…those who live with ‘the moral law inside them’ and not by some
rules that were given by society, school, family or anything else.
- What is the main principle of your
life?
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